Fulfilled lonely comfort

Crowds are often used to cure loneliness. From parties to villages to large families to clubs to companies to concert stardom, they can stop you from being by yourself. But the heartfelt loneliness that I believe is the paradox of the of the human condition, is a much deeper and personal thing.

Here are 2 songs. One is about how God is working out our hardships for our good. The other is in french that starts with the words "He is gone just like he came... with no love" about how a woman feels she never really saw the man she loves even when he was around. (Il est parti : Veronique Sanson)

I felt deep loneliness for the first time in University and began to came to terms with it during my language Summers in Europe where I saw how creatively different cultures deal with it. Tradition, excellence, luxury and proclamation in art are my favorite.

Loneliness is most often numbed by activity. The solution though is in fulfilling relationships. It's simple to chase fulfillment in all the outwardly (in)appropriate ways like not eating alone, casual sex, even the marriage ceremony and religion where the superficial can easily color over the real problem.

So I chose the teddy bears picture for the song about how God's discipline is for our good which probably will fail to comfort the conditional feeling of unfulfilled love in the woman.

Loneliness is a mystery but working it out can bring comfort even if you are by yourself. Ironically it is this fulfilled lonely comfort that will make relationships fulfilling.