tell someone who's all that

This is gospel song calls Jesus:  "Burden Bearer, Heavy Load Sharer, Heart Fixer, Mind Regulator, Constant friend, (through) Thick and thin, Comforting keeper, Always be there." A bit corny perhaps and the music is not mainstream.

No matter what your faith (or no faith), I thought everyone wanted this kind of friend. Yet I'm amazed that many don't. Maybe no friend can be all that...

I once found and then lost this kind of friend. And it took a lot of pain, darkness and loneliness to open my eyes to real friendship again that is not about pills, diagnosis, meetings, awakenings or obligation.

It's about being still and not running around. Enjoying a hug more than applause. Peace not fame. Assurance not power. Love not judgement. Seeing not confusion.

Most important it's experienced and cannot be analysed without losing its meaning. Maybe that's why writing this has been difficult... a little like the hard times that bring us to true friends.